“You, the attached man, must deal with exorbitant restaurant menus, overpriced stalks of roses and the critical, sweeping eye of your significant other as she surveys other couples, mentally comparing her night with the others around her. That’s if you can snag a reservation in the restaurant of your choice in the first place. If you’re reading this and still haven’t booked a table in the best eateries in town, I’m afraid you might have to settle for oyster omelette from your friendly neighbourhood uncle, not that that’s a terrible option but your significant other is not likely to take it that way.”

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“The Plight of the Attached Man on Valentine’s Day”

I don’t really identify with Poached Magazine half the time just because I feel like it’s directed a totally different species to me but this article just makes me want to stick a big fat sticker all over it that says “TW: Gross Heteronormative Generalisations”

“Happy Valentine’s Day, and to all the attached women out there, please acknowledge the efforts of your significant others in making the day as special as it could be. Wear something red and lacy inside. That’s the best present you can give him.”

Icky icky ew ew NOPE

This has nice guy syndrome all over it. Also I think the word ‘plight’ is pushing it a bit (as in a lot)

5:18 pm  •  14 February 2013  •  2 notes

‘Reap what you sow. Don’t be a stupid hoe’ ? wtf?! Are these guys serious? Obviously they are. eeergh, some days I just hate being a guy.

Even worse, women that make me hate being a woman. Or Singaporean, for that matter:

Buuuuut you do get amazing people like:

1:35 pm  •  10 December 2012  •  2 notes

As an act of what I can only call pure masochism, I follow certain pages on Facebook that have a huge Singaporean following because it’s always interesting to observe the attitudes of my fellow country people to major issues. Today, I watched as what should have been an intellectual discussion descended into women becoming sluts and hoes.

‘EDMW loves Singapore’ posted up an interesting article that questioned whether Singapore was becoming anti-women.

Is this the future of Singapore’s women? For the past few months, we have been reporting regularly on women’s rights issues, doing the best to not trivialize or sexualize women in Singapore. But continued articles published by English and Chinese language websites have continued to confound the issue. Most recently, an article by AsiaOne.com showed how high-end restaurants, clubs and other establishments are hiring “attractive” women in the city to wear little clothes in an effort to entice customers to come by. Short skirts, lingerie-clad hostesses are now such a commonplace in the city that few think twice about seeing a little – or a lot – of leg. But I wonder, as a journalist, if we are doing enough to ensure that women’s voices are heard in this city and across Southeast Asia. As an Asian woman, I feel that the rise of the porn industry and the overly sexual nature of women’s reporting has left us cold to the stark realities facing us women in the is part of the world. We are often seen and written about as submissive sexual characters who want to please men. It would appear, from the articles written about women that here in Singapore, the young women on the pages of magazines, at clubs and in the business sector, use their bodies for personal gains. At the same time there is a failure on journalists’ part to adequately report on the positives that women are contributing to society. There are a large number of female executives here who do not resort to sex to get ahead. They are the true heroes of our supposedly progressive society. But they are left aside, in favor of the bikini, or less, adorned woman. It is a frustrating time to live in Asia as an Asian woman. The media sees our vagina as a means of reporting. What we do with our bodies seems to always be up for discussion. In effect, it is our body that gets the attention. When we face sexual violence, too often the media views this as a positive for the men. Women are not getting a fair shake in this regard. The media push a stereotype that views women as sex objects, for men’s pleasure and gazing. It is time to change this perspective. If a woman has had sex, that’s great, it’s her life, but for the media to continually approach the topic of women’s issues in a manner that disregards the woman and focuses only on what she has done with her body, this begs the question: is Singapore becoming anti-women? http://www.bikyamasr.com/82885/is-singapore-becoming-anti-women/

I found this article well put, clear and concise. But the comments? Well it’s safe to say that I was outraged enough to bother making screenshots and blogging about them.

These are just some of the worst examples of male privilege and rape apologists.

So there it is. Singapore: A first world country with third world perspectives.

I’d love to know what you guys think.

1:17 pm  •  10 December 2012  •  9 notes

So this is the final-ish artwork that I will be contributing to the Girls.Book.Change art show/charity event that’s happening on December 14th to the 16th at KIND studios.

People will have the opportunity to buy the various artwork put up on display through a silent auction that will be happening through the weekend, and the proceeds will all go to the Room to Read charity! If you do attend this event, you can also have a self-portrait taken with a book that you’ve brought along.

Room to Read is a wonderful cause that believes in equal access to education and literacy in all the corners of the world. The proceeds will go towards providing girls in Vietnam with books and other learning materials!

About the Artwork

The illustrators were given a very simple task: Create artwork based on any book.

That was it! As you can imagine, I had a really hard time trying to pick just one book.

In the end, I chose ‘The Golden Compass’ (also known as ‘The Northern Lights’) because it had a huge impact on my preteen self. Philip Pullman had written an incredibly tenacious female protagonist that I could relate to and a world so rich that I could almost touch. It also opened my mind up to philosophical thought and other wild ideas that my very young mind was only just starting to grasp. It’s a book that I always perceive differently each time I read it and I think that will continue to be the case.

So do make the effort to come down, even if it’s just to admire the artwork from all the talented artists that are taking part in this event or simply to find other bibliophiles and share your favourite memories of being curled up with a good book.

I’d love to meet up with any of you there as well! We could call it a mini-Tumblr meet-up :)

4:54 pm  •  7 December 2012  •  7 notes

Actual things my husband says.

Tip of the day: Feminist men are hot.

By the by, I’m super excited about Anita Sarkeesian’s upcoming new series on video game tropes!

3:08 am  •  8 July 2012  •  24 notes

More developments involving misogyny and bigotry on Facebook.

Comments?

Honestly, I have no clue how to respond because it’s like reasoning with a brick wall.

A misogynistic brick wall.

3:32 pm  •  18 April 2012  •  3 notes

happywaves replied to your photoset: Wow. Just… wow. I have no words for this, but I…

i’m following this news too. Although im not from Singapore. I’m from Malaysia. But we’r neighbours, and any news close to home, especially disgraceful ones like these, just makes me really pissed off. How can this guy be so ignorant.

Their main crime is that they choose to be ignorant. It’s so much easier to blame other people, blame someone, blame anyone!

The hard thing to do is to exercise empathy and taking the perspective of others, clearly!

12:16 pm  •  18 April 2012  •  3 notes

Wow. Just… wow.

I have no words for this, but I do find it interesting that the people who are saying that the men should be protected and pointing the finger at the girl are… men. What a surprise.

I don’t know who Maya Phoenix is but he/she is my hero, by the way.

12:09 pm  •  18 April 2012  •  1 note

“How is anybody going to know what he is charged for when you don’t know who the girl is, and what her age is? Who are they trying to protect? As far as I am concerned, this girl does not deserve protection as she is a HARDCORE PROSTITUTE who got so many men into trouble”

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Subhas Anandan, criminal lawyer to ten of the 44 men who solicited sex from a minor.

[source]

Ummmmmmmmmm WHAT?

THIS IS WHY WE CAN’T HAVE NICE THINGS.

If anyone has ANY DOUBT that Singaporeans hate women, you just have to look at this article - what it’s about and the actual coverage of the topic. 

11:48 am  •  18 April 2012

it does appear she has an attractive bust line and a mouth to sweet talk repeat business.

I rolled my eyes so hard they flew out of my head, orbited around the sun and then went back into my skull.

Oh and I’m not bothering to hide the names of these Facebook posters by the way. Insist on slut-shaming? Fine. I have come here to chew bubblegum and misogynist-shame… and I’m all out of bubblegum.

11:41 am  •  18 April 2012  •  2 notes